Thursday, October 27, 2011

To Have A Friend, You Must Be A Friend

I was scrolling through friend's Face Book profile this morning. She's really not personal friend- meaning I've never actually met her.  We just correspond back and forth regularly because we have much in common.
I wanted to post an encouraging word on her Face Book profile because the over the past couple of months she's had some real struggles.  She recently lost her career, her dog became ill and died, and last month, she buried her husband of thirty years. His death was tragic.  He'd never been sick a day in his life. One morning, he didn't feel quite right. A few days later, he was dead. I can't even imagine!

How does one find the strength to keep going after all that?

I came upon a post another friend of hers had recently posted on her Face Book profile. This is a REAL friend--one who knows her personally, lives in the same town, and actually knows her phone number. I happen to know this friend personally, as well. Here is what that "friend" posted:

"Thinking of you during your difficult time, but I am beginning to doubt our friendship. It would be nice if you picked up the phone once in awhile and called me!"

Is it just me, or does anyone else see anything wrong with that?

If you're thinking of someone and know they are having a tough time, it is your responsibility as a human being to reach out to that person. You don't sit around waiting on them! Call, write, stop by the house, invite them out to dinner or drinks. If they are not up to company, drop off a basket of fruit or freshly baked muffins and then go home. If a long time has gone by and you haven't heard from her, that's a big sign right there that she needs a little moral support or a hand to hold. Don't make it personal. The last thing on her mind is reassuring you of her friendship. She's wondering how to make through the day without falling apart!

Some people wonder why they have no friends. To have a friend, you must be a friend.

Be a true friend. Pick up the phone. Show her how much you care. Go the extra mile-- especially when she's hurting. You might not have the right words to say, but a little effort goes a long way and means everything.

If you are not a friend, you will have no friends. You get what you give. Eventually, sorrow will come knocking at your door. When it does, you're gonna need a friend.......

And this is my Daily Cyn.......

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