Tuesday, June 28, 2011
Food is NOT a Reward
Every morning I watch the news. I need to know a little about what's going on in the world. As I sat busily typing away at my computer, the news ended and on came Maury Povich. I am not a fan of his show but sometimes I see the first few minutes of it before I turn it off. I was surprised to see today's show wasn't about the usual cheating partners and paternity tests. It was about childhood obesity. Of course, this piqued my interest. I poured myself another cup of coffee and watched.
This show was sad to say the least. Huge, unhealthy, miserable children and equally miserable mothers who were concerned about their kids but had no idea how to improve or change things. There was one four year old boy in particular who weighed a whopping 104lbs! 104 lbs! Can you imagine?
When his mother was asked how she rewarded him when he was good, she responded, "fried chicken!"
FRIED CHICKEN?!! That kid needs fruit, vegetables and serious exercise, not a bucket of KFC!
This might be an extreme case but it made me think about our relationships with FOOD. Some use food to soothe, comfort, and to feel loved. This is a learned behavior that begins in childhood. It seems harmless at the time, but there can be some serious issues down the line. It affects the whole way we think about and eat food.
Baby cries- we give them a bottle. Milk = comfort.
Child is antsy in the car at the store - we give them a cookie. Cookie = peace
Child is misbehaving- we promise them an ice cream if they are good. Ice Cream = Reward
Child gets rejected at school, on the playground, by friends- we bake them brownies.
Brownies = Love.
Do you see a pattern here? Do you see yourself in this picture? As the giver OR the recipient?
Shut them up with food.
Calm them down with food.
Make them behave with food.
Heal their broken hearts with food.
Oh! And here's a big one! Threaten to take away a treat or favorite food when they misbehave!
We cry, we hurt, we do something good, or we want to feel loved and what do we do? We turn to FOOD... Because we are conditioned to silence our emotions and our pain. We learn to temporarily suppress our true feeling and our needs with FOOD. We depend on FOOD to make us feel good!. We are controlled by FOOD!
What happens when you have a bad day? Break up with your mate?
Do you reach for the gallon of ice cream or junk food?
If your body, mind and spirit are balanced-- one ice cream cone a day is NOT GOING TO MAKE YOU FAT!!!!
WOW! I bet you never heard that before!!
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