Saturday, September 18, 2010


When someone you care about has their hopes and dreams shattered, what do you do? You might even think they are to blame for their problems.  Perhaps they self-sabotaged something great that came their way.  They failed to plan or prepare and told you they had it all under control.   They refused to listen to your advice and your suggestions and now, even though you hoped and wished for the best despite everything, they failed again. 

It's so easy to say, " I told you so."  You know they should have listened to you.  They know they should have listened to you.  There is no need to remind them of this--EVER.  They fact that they already KNOW you were right makes it worse. 

So what do you do? They are now hopeless, distraught, they want to give up.  Do you write them off and walk away? They might even tell you to go, leave, get away.  Don't listen. Stay. 

We all make mistakes.  We all fail.  We all have hopes and dreams and anticipate good things.  We hear of a great offer and we are excited, we get our hopes up, we begin making plans.  Then something happens--something bad.  Beyond our control or not; the plan fails.  Even when we have no one else to blame but ourselves, there is nothing worse than being alone when we already feel we have lost everything. 

Stay.  Remain close and within reach.  Give them space and allow them to sulk, lick their wounds, or rant and rave  As long as they are not abusing or hurting you--stay.  They will come around  eventually and realize things are never hopeless.  No matter how angry and disappointed you are--Stay.  When they are ready, hold them close and reassure them that you are with them, fighting with them and for them.  Sometimes all we need is to hear that someone believes in us no matter how awful things appear.  When you are torn between going or staying..... Stay. 

And this is my Daily Cyn...........


  1. Wow, your posts are so positive and uplifting. I love your blog. xx

  2. Thank you, Donna.... some shared hopes and dreams have just been shattered and I am so sad but all I can do is continue to love through it all....

  3. Ha! True Qualwebnav...but unfortunately some of us must keep repeating that same course over and over again...... :)